Breakups can be immensely tough to deal with but at the same time, they also teach us things about ourselves. Coming out of a romantic relationship which has lasted for months or years can be tough for mind and heart but you have to pick yourself up and go on because stopping at this stage will mean that you have succumbed to the situation which will keep getting worse. If you are going through that phase, here are tips you can follow to turn it into a positive experience.
You will become unapologetic about your choices
When you go through a break up, you become more open and clear about your choices. Your future relationships will be based on clarity of thought and emotions and that is one of the biggest takeaways from that hurtful break up. From personal to work relationships, everything will become more sorted because you will learn to say no and mean yes.
It will teach you the true meaning of life
Relationships end sometimes because of the circumstances two people are in, and it does not necessarily mean that they are bad people. People fall in and out of love and that's applicable to most things in life. Break ups will make you more mature and teach that you don't need to throw dirt on others just because they did not do things the way you expected them to. In life, you can't control how others feel and what they do so it's better not to bother controlling those things at all.
Tough times don't last, tough people do
When you are going through a break up, it seems like the pain will never end; but just to break it to you, it does. You will learn that heart break takes time to heal and is a natural process. Distractions work but only so much. You have to slow things down to avoid recurrence of negative feelings again and again. Do things that you like and wait for the phase to pass because trust us, it will.
Discuss things with a close friend
Though hanging out in big, loud crowds may not be your best bet when you're dealing with a break-up, confiding in a really good friend or two who really gets you can help you feel a lot better. You can do this over the phone or in person during a The New Girl marathon; whatever feels right to you. Having a person to talk to one-on-one can help you get your feelings out while making you feel less alone.
You need people but there are things only you can do for yourself
It is essential to surround yourself with people who understand you but the 'healing process' we mentioned can happen only when and if you are committed to it yourself. Surround yourself with friends and family members who care deeply and genuinely for you but do not rely on external support so much that you shatter emotionally on the slightest lack of it. A very good Bollywood example for this is the movie Queen starring Kangana Ranaut. After getting dumped from her fiancé one day before marriage, Rani (Kangana's character) decided to go for her honeymoon alone. This is a perfect for every woman who wants to take control of her life without thinking too much about what others will think.
You will learnt the true meaning of 'letting go'
'In the end, you have to let go'. Get rid of your bitterness and regret as these are two of the most common emotions that people going through break-ups can feel. You may be bitter because of what your partner did and how much they hurt you. You may feel regret because of all the time you wasted on such a bad relationship. You may regret the way you acted, or regret that you put up with the other person for so long. To be able to deal with your break up, these are exactly the feelings that you have to fight.
Break ups are tough regardless of the age, but can be trickier in college when the experience of such relationships is less. However, with the steps mentioned above, you will be able to survive this emotional experience with ease.