Tired of thinking negative all the time? Tired of always being scared of the consequences? May be it is time to snap out of pessimism and reclaim your life
No one has ever profited from negative thinking. If you are a bright student and get bogged down unnecessarily by fears of failure, you may need to rethink the direction in which your life is heading. It might be symptomatic of a larger emotional problem like insecurity and self-hate. There is little to gain from being a negative nancy.
Negative thoughts distract you from your responsibilities and enervate you. Do not be tricked into considering your imagination a part of reality. And, if you have decided to turn a new leaf, here are some points you should pay attention to.
Shift focus: Every time you catch yourself being negative, immediately shift focus to something pleasant and positive.
Decide to be happy: Happiness is a state of mind. You have to decide to be happy. More importantly, create happiness and do not be paranoid about the fear of failure.
Revise your attitude and words: Instead of saying ‘This task is not meant for me,’ or ‘I am sure to flunk,’ try this – ‘What can I learn from this task?’ and ‘Maybe I have done better than I think.’
Surround yourself with positive people: During stressful times like declaration of exam results, go hang out with family members, friends or mentors who believe in you and who usually will oblige you with a pep talk. Avoid indulging in negative criticism of your life and do not let others de-motivate you.
Meditate: If your condition is chronic, then it is best you go join yoga or meditation classes just about now. Professional help will heal your mind and body and prevent exacerbation of the situation.
Be selective of music: Music affects your disposition to a large extent. Sad music will only make you feel more pathetic. Get rid of that depressing sappy collection and stock up on something interesting and upbeat.
Focus on someone else: Shift focus to something or someone else. When you are not working, try and do something for someone else every day. Show them you care and stop being self-obsessed.
Accept yourself: Most importantly, get real and accept yourself. Don’t abuse yourself by seeking perfection in everything you do. Be realistic. No one is perfect. There are things you are good at and things probably could do just fine. Furthermore, success depends on many a factor you don’t have control over. Therefore, accept failure and success as part of life.
If you have never quite been the topper in class and have similar issues, then resolve to work hard, give each exam your best shot. Don’t neglect your inert talents. You might find your niche elsewhere and not academics. Bottom of the matter is that not everyone excels at everything. Sometimes, great achievers are those who have gone off the beaten track. Be brave and life will be sunny.