9 things you need to know about college romance
Every relationship has its own ups and downs and sometimes, the problem is it's too plain and monotonous for your taste. Here are some reality checks you need before you get too involved in your college relationship.
No matter how old you grow, college romances will always hold a special place in your heart. The connections made at this time are comparatively innocent an full of genuine naivety. However, unlike the movies, there are certain things are neither as perfect and as dramatic in real life. Every relationship has its own ups and downs and sometimes, the problem is it's too plain and monotonous for your taste. Here are some reality checks you need before you get too involved in your college relationship.
1. If you and your high school sweetheart end up going to the same college, expect some changes. Things transform drastically when a person enters the college and you should be prepared for that and give your girlfriend/boyfriend significant space so that they can concentrate on other important things that college has to offer.
2. Don't rush so much to get into a relationship that you forget to enjoy the sweet changes that college life brings. Celebrate the freedom, make new friends, explore opportunities and do everything because before you know, three years will pass and you will be back to being tensed, this time about keeping the ends together.
3. If and when you do get into a relationship, remember to not get so focussed on that one aspect of your life that you ignore every other thing. As mentioned in last point, enjoy college life to its fullest because it won't last forever.
4. Don't think that it is an obligation to date somebody in college. it is perfectly okay to stay single till the time you meet someone who you think deserves your love and affection. Don't settle for less just so that you have a company and the label of being someone's love interest. Relationships which start on such a note, end very quickly and in a very bad manner because the students are not mature enough.
5. Remember that relationships are supposed to make you happy, so if yours isn't, it will be good to let go of it. Don't dwell on it only for the sake of it because it will act like a toxin in your happy life, making it devoid of fun and frolic.
6. Stay true to your school love, if you are sure your feelings were genuine. It could be tempting to hook up with new, attractive people but remember that physical attractiveness can take things only so far and you have to have some kind of connection to make the relationship stay and work things out.
7. Beware of the 'on and off' thing. It is very tricky and results in a lot of bitching and gossip. Talk to the person and ask them to clarify everything and sit down to DTR (Define The Relationship). You don't want to be developing feelings for someone who couldn't possibly care less about you. One sided romances end up being really hurtful for at least one person and you don't want that kind of drama in your life.
8. If at all the relationship fails, don't break down to the extent that it becomes difficult to pick yourself up. It is all part of the learning and break ups just means that you learnt something about romantic commitment which you did not before. They don't have to nasty either. Talk to your friends if you think your girlfriend/boyfriend has behaved badly with you but don't go around telling everything to everyone.
9. Take risks because how bad can it possibly get? The guy you have had your eyes on for months, ask him out because for all you know, he might also be interested in you. If he is not, hard luck but at least you will live in the knowledge of having tried as much as you could. A lot of people miss out on good, meaningful relationships because they are too afraid to speak up. Don't be one of them.
Most importantly, love yourself before you start loving somebody else. Develop some self respect and don't let a college student destroy your peace of mind with their habits and ego. You are not living to please anyone and are under no obligation to keep them happy. If things work for them, good. if they don't, that doesn't have to be a problem either.